I heard this quote from Leila Hormozi when she was asked about discipline. She said, “Discipline is just my environment reminding me to do something.”

And this really made me think about what my environment used to look like, and how different it looks now.

For a long time, my environment reminded me to drink, scroll, avoid things, put things off, and keep choosing comfort even when I knew I wanted something different.

Now, my environment reminds me to move my body, get outside, make coffee, open my workbook, check in with myself, and actually follow through on the things I say matter to me.

That is a huge part of Reset. It is not about suddenly becoming the most disciplined person in the room. It is about creating an environment that makes the things you want easier to come back to.

Admitting that “I’ll do it later” has been the excuse, not the plan.

Take a moment to envision the life you want and ask yourself, what could my life look like if I actually went all in on myself? Going all in does not mean changing everything overnight. It means getting honest about what may need to move lower on your priority list so something else can move higher. Sometimes the life you want comes down to asking, what matters more to me right now?

This question is asking you to look at the moments where you choose what feels easier right now, but later feel frustrated with yourself because it did not actually help you.

An easy example is having a fridge full of food, but choosing takeout because cooking feels like too much. In the moment, it feels easier. But later, you might feel annoyed because you spent money, you said you wouldn't, wasted groceries, or didn’t feel great after.

Another example is complaining about something over and over, but not actually doing anything to change it.

Maybe you keep saying you feel tired, but you stay up late every night. Maybe you keep saying you feel disconnected from yourself, but you never make time to be alone or you're on social media scrolling for hours a day. Maybe you keep saying you want to feel healthier, but you keep avoiding the habits that would help you feel better.

Complaining can feel easier because it lets us release the frustration without requiring action. But eventually, it keeps us stuck because we are talking about the problem more than we are participating in the solution.

We are trying to stop living in the loop of always saying yes to what is easy now, and then feeling frustrated later. The goal is to start building more trust with ourselves by choosing the thing that actually supports us, even when it takes a little more effort.

This shows you what supports your follow through. Maybe you feel most in control when you plan your workouts ahead of time, go in the morning, have your clothes ready, know what you are doing, or keep things simple. The more you understand what helps you stay consistent, the easier it becomes to build a routine that actually works for you.

Defining health for ourselves is so important. We need to dig deeper here and actually understand our own personal definition of health, so we can create a path that supports the life we are trying to build.

I like this question because it makes us stop and think about what we actually consider feeling good. For me, that used to mean going out and partying, but did it really make me feel good? This is the shift we work on, learning to tell the difference between what feels good in the moment and what feels good long term.

Ooof. Hard question, but a good one! If you asked me this when I was still an older version of myself, I probably would have cried or acted shocked, like what kind of question is that? But that is the point. If feeling good only means surface-level things to you, then that becomes the standard you build your life around. The second I realized feeling good could be a million other things that did not revolve around drinking, attention, or temporary highs, everything started to change.

Okay, don’t hate me! But sometimes your work best friend is really just the person who dislikes the same things you do.

That does not make the connection fake, but it is worth looking at honestly. When work is stressful, toxic, or draining, it makes sense that you would feel close to the one person who gets it. Shared frustration can create a strong bond. But if the job changed, one of you left, or the complaining stopped, would the friendship still have much to stand on? That is the real question. It is less about judging the relationship and more about understanding what it is actually built on.

I think the goal is to notice when the whole connection is built around what you both don’t like, and try to shift it toward what you both do like.

Sometimes it is not that the other person is the problem. Sometimes you were both stuck in the same patterns, and it only became obvious once you started changing, reflecting a bit more on your life, or got some distance. This is less about blame and more about being honest about whether the relationship still feels healthy, supportive, and aligned with who you are becoming or who you want to become.

This can apply to anything, but it is a good question to ask yourself. How good are you at actually doing the things you say you are going to do?

For me, this was drinking. I thought that was the best version of me. Cause it was the one everyone liked! Now, I feel most connected to myself when I am actively pursuing a goal. When I am showing up for something that matters to me, keeping promises to myself, and becoming someone I actually respect.

It's okay to be honest about what alcohol is really doing for you in the moment. Is it comfort, confidence, escape, routine, wanting to fit in, or just not knowing what else to do instead?

This helps you see whether alcohol is just a small part of your life, or whether it is quietly getting in the way of the things you say matter to you.

This is a good one because the people around you shape what feels normal. If your friendships only revolve around gossip, drinking, complaining, or surface level catch ups, it is worth asking whether the conversations in your life are actually helping you grow too. A few good questions to get the ball rolling:

What are you most excited about this week?

What are you working toward right now?

What feels challenging for you lately?

What is something you are trying to get better at?